This page is a suggested checklist of things you may want to ask, to help
you plan and do as much as you can to help you stay safe whilst arranging
to meet a prospective dominant for the first time.
Some may think what i have included are simple things that everyone
knows you have to do..but in the excitment and build up to that first
meeting it is very easy to overlook the simpler things..and often they
are the most important.
Some of the personal information is just that, very personal, and a Dom is
trusting you with a lot of information which may leave him open to exploitation
or blackmail, so he may feel that he can't give you all of the information
on the list. But, any responsible genuine Dom will give you enough information
for you to be able to tell he's just that.
- Physical description, including distinguishing marks
- Car make, model, colour and registration number
- Any people he knows in the scene. Check with any people he names
that they have met him and do in fact know him in real life.
- Any clubs or munches he attends regularly. Check the info out
with the munch organisers themselves to see that they know him and
he does in fact attend
- Any scene event he has attended
- Previous submissives/slaves that you can talk to
Just remember a genuine dominant will usually offer most of this
information without asking. If however he becomes upset or accuses you
of not trusting him, or believing him, and becomes defensive when you
ask him personal details, take it as a warning that he is not all that
he says he is, and move on. He obviously
has something to hide. A genuine dominant will not pressurise you into
meeting before you are ready to and are confident that he really is who
and what he says he is.
Perhaps the safest place to meet any new Dom for the first time is at
a munch or scene event, where you are surrounded by people who can watch
out for you. You are in a public place, with lots of other scene people
and you know that you are both safe.
©tiana 2000-2005
